Coping with Tantrums 29 June
 
Tantrums are something we've all seen, whether with our own child or other people's children. The sight of a child screaming, kicking and crying is very upsetting to the parent and can be a source of embarrassment if it happens when in you are in a public place (such as the supermarket).
So what causes a child to have a tantrum? Most tantrums occur in children between the age of 2 and 3, hence the term "The terrible 2's". Your child is communicating anger or frustration by throwing a tantrum. Tantrums are a relatively normal stage of your child's development as they discover their will and independence. However, they are stressful for parents to deal with.
What can you do to cope when your child throws a tantrum? The main thing is to try and remain calm - it's not easy!! If you are stressed and react to the tantrum, you might make things worse. If you can remain calm, you help your child to calm down too.
Here are some things you can do to cope:
Try ignoring the tantrum. If you're at home, do something else in the same room and wait for your child to stop. As soon as he does, give him some positive attention such as playing a game with him
Try to distract him out of the tantrum. If he's throwing a tantrum because you haven't given him something, give him something else.
Sometimes, giving your child a hug during the tantrum can soothe him. Use a sympathetic tone of voice as you try to comfort him
The most important thing when dealing with a tantrum is to calmly ask your child why they're angry and show them that you hear what they're saying. For example, your son is playing with his sister and conflict breaks out. He starts to scream. Instead of telling him to "stop" or "be quiet", try asking what is wrong. When he answers, show that you hear him and you sympathise with him. For instance, if he answers "she took my train" you can respond by saying "so you feel very angry because she took your train. When you calm down we'll try to sort something out." This demonstrates 3 things:
You've allowed him to tell you why he's angry
You've clearly demonstrated that you were listening (by telling him what you heard)
You've offered to help him sort it out but ONLY after he calms down
Remember, tantrums are a normal phase of development. It does not mean that your child is badly behaved or that you are a bad parent for being stressed out when it happens. It's part of the parenting process!

 
 
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Bottle Feeding Safely - 22 June 2011
22 June

Bottle Feeding Safely - Food Safety Authority of Ireland

Breast milk is the best and most natural food for babies, it’s ready to feed and it’s free. However, if you have made an informed decision to bottle feed your baby you need to know how to prepare and store the bottle food safely.


How do I sterilise bottles for feeding?
Bottles and all equipment (e.g. teats, collars, discs, caps and tongs) must be sterilised before using to ensure there are no harmful bacteria present which may grow in the feed once it is prepared and which could make your baby sick.
Bottles and equipment must be first washed in hot soapy water, rinsed in clean running water and then sterilised by using steam sterilisation, boiling or using sterilising liquid or tablets. Once sterilised, a sterile tongs should be used to handle all bottles and equipment. 
Should I use hot or cold water for preparing feeds?
The use of hot water (70ºC) is the preferred method for making feeds. This temperature is achieved by boiling water in the kettle and letting it cool for 30 minutes before using. This water is hot enough to kill any bacteria that may be in the food.
If you cannot prepare feed immediately using hot water you can prepare bottles of sterile water in advance to use to make the feed when required. Feed prepared in this manner cannot be stored and must be consumed immediately.
Note: Some specialised feeds cannot be made using hot water so in these cases manufacturer’s instructions should be followed.

How long can I store feed once it is made up?
Feed made using hot water (70ºC) can be made in advance and stored provided it is cooled completely, stored at the back of the refrigerator and used within 24 hours. Feed made using cooled pre-sterilised water cannot be kept and should be consumed immediately.
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What is colic? What are colic symptoms and signs in babies?
24 March

 
Infantile colic has been around for a long time. In 1954, Dr. Morris Wessel, a well-known New Haven pediatrician, defined an infant with colic as "one who, otherwise healthy and well-fed, had paroxysms of irritability, fussing, or crying lasting for a total of three hours a day and occurring on more than three days in any one week for a period of three weeks." It is also important to remember that not all fussy babies suffer from colic. Most infants normally cry two to three hours per day, but this is usually spread out during the 24-hour period.
The crying or fussing most frequently begins suddenly and often after a feeding. The cry is loud and continuous, and the spells last from one to four hours. The baby's face often gets flushed or red. The belly is sometimes distended or prominent, the legs alternating between flexed and extended straight out; the feet are often cold and the hands clenched. The episodes, while they can occur at any time of the day or night, typically begin in the late afternoon or early evening, just when parents or caregivers are most exhausted. There are some babies who are more prone to infantile colic than others. It is generally believed that if one or both parents were colicky, their baby is more at risk. Infantile colic typically begins at about 2 to 3 weeks of age, reaches its peak at 2 months, begins to subside by 3 months, and is gone by 3 ½ to 4 months of age. But the frustrating fact remains that although one in four babies has colic and much research has been done on the topic, there is no one proven cause of colic. In some studies, no discernable cause was found for one-quarter of those babies who suffered from colicky episodes. This is very frustrating for most parents.
It is certainly known that amongst all colicky babies, there are factors that may worsen the colic symptoms:
  1. overfeeding in a futile attempt to lessen the crying;
  2. feeding certain foods, especially those with high sugar content, for example, undiluted juices may increase the amount of gas in the intestine and worsen the situation;
  3. the presence of excessive anger, anxiety/ fear, or excitement in the household;
  4. probably a multitude of other factors as yet unknown.

What can be done to help with colic in babies?

 
First of all, remember you are not alone. This is a very common problem (up to 25% of all babies suffer from colic). Discuss your concerns with your pediatrician and talk to other parents or relatives who have had similar experiences. Also keep in mind that colic generally occurs in big, healthy, active, vigorous babies who are great eaters and who grow very well. Sickly, poor-feeding, unhealthy babies or babies with significant underlying problems may well be cranky, miserable, and unhappy; however, these infants tend to be this way most of the time, whereas the baby with colic generally has episodes at a very predictable ("set your clock by the beginning and end") time of the day.
Here are some suggestions:
  1. Do not overfeed! Stick to your baby's regular feeding schedule of timing and amount of milk taken, as measured in ounces in the bottle-fed baby or in minutes on the breast in the breastfed baby.
  2. Breastfeeding mothers should avoid milk products ("you don't have to drink milk to make milk"), caffeine, onions, cabbage, beans, broccoli, and other gas-producing, irritating foods. Be sure that if your baby is taking juices, that they are very diluted, or just offer plain water. If babies are really thirsty, they will drink it.
  3. Avoid juices (young infants should not be drinking juice anyway).
  4. In the formula-fed baby, try changing to a formula containing whey hydrolysate (or try a low-allergy formula (such as Nutramigen, Alimentum, or Pregestimil). Some research suggests that making these changes can result in a decrease in the number of episodes and duration of symptoms in some infants. It is worth the expense of a week's trial to see if the formula is at all contributing to the colic.
  5. Take a break! When the anxiety, fear, and tension get to be too much (or perhaps an hour before!), try to have someone else watch the baby, even for an hour, and leave the house. Try to keep a positive attitude.
  6. Try walking the baby in a front-pouch-style carrier with his legs drawn up and pressure off of his belly.
  7. Though there is no clear evidence that physical stimulation helps, many parents swear by it. Some babies seem to be soothed by rhythmic, steady movements, like rocking gently or by sounds, like running the vacuum, or having the clothes dryer within earshot. (Never leave a baby unattended near the dryer, as there is a serious risk of injury.)
  8. Wrap the baby firmly in a comfortable blanket ("swaddling").
  9. Medications, such as simethicone (Phazyme, Flatulex, Mylicon, Gas-X, Mylanta Gas), and other homeopathic treatments have not conclusively proven to be more effective than placebo (sugar pill) and should be avoided unless prescribed by your infant's medical provider. Hycoscyamine (Levsin), an antispasmodic medication used to treat adults with various intestinal ailments, has been associated with serious side effects in young infants.
  10. Recently, there have been some interesting results using certain probiotics (dietary supplements containing live bacteria or yeast and used to aid digestion). It is important to discuss these options with your provider prior to using them.

Finally, remember that after the three or four months, when the colic has resolved, you will be left with that happy, healthy, eager-eating baby you dreamed of because there are no long-term problems associated with colic.

Colic At A Glance
  • Colic is self-limited and episodic.
  • Overfeeding, undiluted juices, food allergies, and emotional issues It is important for a baby with new abdominal pain and crying to be evaluated by a doctor who can exclude other more serious conditions.
  • Avoid medications and other treatments unless you have discussed them with your infant's medical practitioner.


12 Ways to Deal With a Temper Tantrum
24 March

 
One problem that no parent has ever been spared is that of the tantrum. Tantrums are unpleasant, and often quite embarrassing, but they are very normal, especially in children around the ages of 2-3.
Children of this age group are discovering a will of their own, but they do not yet have the language that they need to express themselves, nor do they have the ability to regulate their own emotions when they do not get what they want right away. Your job as the adult is to help them improve both types of skills.
Try some of the following ideas to help avoid tantrums, or at least make them less frequent and less intense:
  1. Try the best you can to prepare ahead of time to prevent unnecessary problems. Children do need to learn to deal with small amounts of frustration, since they will encounter many times in their lives when they cannot get their way, but you should make your own life easier by avoiding situations that might set your child off. For example, do not start activities that your child enjoys if you will not have enough time to finish them. Never promise anything that you know you will not follow through on. Avoid beginning activities when your child is already hungry, tired, or cranky. Keep track of when your child tends to throw tantrums, including the time of day, the situation, and particular stressors that make a tantrum more likely, and try to keep these factors to a minimum.
  2. If you see a tantrum building, try to distract your child by focusing his attention on something else. Young children respond quite well to music, so try singing his favorite song. Know that this strategy will not always work, but it's worth a try.
  3. Sometimes tantrums arise because young children are testing the boundaries of their new-found independence. Give your child some sense of independence by giving her choices. However, make sure to word the choices in a way that makes it clear that what you want is non-negotiable. For example, she has to get dressed right now to go to preschool, but she can pick the outfit she wants to wear. Allow her to do so, even if she does not end up with a matching outfit.
  4. Once a tantrum begins, the best policy is usually to make sure that your child is physically safe, and then ignore him. Do not try to argue or reason with a child in the throes of a tantrum, as you will just be setting yourself up for a frustrating power struggle. Think about yourself – are you likely to listen to reason while you are in the grip of overwhelming emotions, or do you just need to vent?
  5. Do not let yourself get angry about the tantrum to the point where you think you will lose control and say or do something that you will later regret. No matter how hard it may be, force yourself to stay calm. If you cannot do so, excuse yourself for a minute until you regain control.
  6. Your children are always watching you, so make sure that you are modeling good behavior for dealing with your own frustrating emotions as they arise. Let your child know when something has upset you by labeling the feeling, and then show how you relax, such as taking five deep breaths, or saying that you need five minutes alone to calm down.
  7. After the tantrum is over, let your child know that you were not happy with his behavior, but then find something positive to say, such as how proud you are of how quickly he was able to calm himself down. Say, "I'm so glad that you are feeling better now," give him a hug, and then channel him into an activity to avoid dwelling on what just happened.
  8. If your child has tried to hit, kick, or bite someone else, respond to that particular behavior, not to the tantrum. Remind him that hurting others physically is never tolerated and deliver the normal consequences for these behaviors.
  9. Do not embarrass your child by making fun of his behavior. Do not hold a grudge and bring up the tantrum again in the future.
  10. Despite how tempting it may be to give in and let the child have her way just to end a seemingly never-ending tantrum, do not do so. You will be teaching her one major lesson: that throwing a tantrum will eventually get her exactly what she wants if she holds out long enough. Think about the long-term consequences of teaching her this lesson. Tantrums are certainly unpleasant when children are young, but consider a tantrum in an older child or teenager. It is best to set patterns as early as possible so that your child learns that screaming and crying is not the way to get what she wants, from you or anyone else.
  11. It may be embarrassing to have a child throw a tantrum in a crowded place, but try to remember that your concern is your child and not strangers. As calmly as you can, pick up your child and take him to a quiet place, such as the car, so he can calm down. Let him know that as soon as he calms down, you will be able to return to what you were doing. Do not show impatience or anger through your facial expressions or tone of voice. Try to stay impassive and let him know that he is not getting to you.
  12. Tantrums may be the only way that your child feels that she can get your attention. Make sure that you are giving her lots of positive attention for good behaviors, and that you are setting aside as much time as possible, even just a few minutes every day, to spend alone with your child, only focusing on her.
Most of the time, tantrums are nothing to worry about if you do not give in to the desires underlying the tantrums, children should learn fairly quickly that throwing tantrums do not work. If you are sticking to your limits and showing your child that he cannot upset you, but he continues to have tantrums 2-3 times per day, or the tantrums last longer than 15-20 minutes, you should contact your pediatrician for assistance.


Get the Vaccine Not the Flu!
09 November
There is a debate every year as to whether this vaccine should be taken or not. However most pregnant woman will naturally wonder about the risks to their unborn child but as far as the HSE advises this is the safest option.
Many woman who are pregnant will find it very hard to fight off the flu symptoms if they contact flu during their pregnancy, as there is very little you can take when pregnant if you do catch the flu. Even paracetamol needs to be taken with proper advice and caution.
The following is an excerpt from HSE guidelines for winter 2010:
The flu virus changes each year and this is why a new flu vaccine has to be given every year. Based on advice from the World Health Organisation (WHO),this year the seasonal flu vaccine contains three common flu virus strains, including the Pandemic H1N1 (swine flu) strain which is still circulating this year and is expected to be the most common strain this winter. Unlike last year, the swine flu virus strain is included in the seasonal flu vaccine meaning that only one flu vaccination is required this year.
In Ireland, the National Immunisation Advisory Committee has recommended that the following groups of at-risk people need to be vaccinated for seasonal influenza – everyone aged 65 and older, children and adults with long-term illnesses such as asthma, heart problems etc., including those who attend schools or day centres for people with disabilities, as well as health care staff and carers.
In addition, healthy pregnant women and women up to six weeks after giving birth who have not previously received the swine flu vaccine are urged to get the seasonal flu vaccination this year as they are at a higher risk of complications from swine flu. Pregnant women who have a long-term medical condition such as diabetes, heart or lung disease need to get the seasonal flu vaccine, even if they have already had the swine flu vaccine.
This year's seasonal flu vaccine can be given at any stage of pregnancy and will also protect the baby. The vaccine is also safe for breastfeeding mothers and their babies. In the US flu vaccine has been routinely recommended for all pregnant women for many years. Of particular interest to pregnant women is that the annual flu vaccine does not contain the adjuvant (aluminium) or thiomersal, (a mercury based preservative), which were part of one of the swine flu vaccines during last year's pandemic.
There are no safety concerns of administering the seasonal flu vaccine to those who have previously received the swine flu vaccine. Seasonal flu vaccines have been given for more than 60 years to millions of people across the world. Reactions are generally mild and serious side effects are very rare.
Vaccines are the best line of defence we have against a flu virus as flu vaccine reduces infection and associated illnesses and hospitalisation. The HSE's dedicated immunisation website – www.immunisation.ie – provides details on the annual flu vaccination, along with answers to any questions people may have about flu and leaflets are available for downloading. These leaflets are also available in GP surgeries and HSE local health offices.
According to Dr. Brenda Corcoran from the HSE's National Immunisation Office, "We predict that the swine flu virus will be the dominant strain of flu virus this winter but there may also be other flu viruses around. Each year there is a new seasonal vaccine to protect against the circulating strains of flu virus. This year the flu vaccine will protect against swine flu and two other common flu strains. Flu is very infectious and can cause potentially serious illnesses especially for older people those who have a chronic illness and pregnant women. All those at risk should get the flu vaccine this year to make sure that they are protected" she said.
She added, "The flu vaccine cannot give you the flu as it does not contain any live flu virus. We want to ensure that people in the at-risk groups, and pregnant women, get the annual flu vaccine this year so that our most vulnerable groups are kept safe this winter from the three most common strains of flu which this year includes swine flu."


Does Your Autumn Baby Have Allergies?
09 November
Babies who are born in the autumn are at a greater risk of developing food allergies, experts have said.
Those born in October and November are almost twice as likely to show a form of food intolerance by the age of four, than those born in June and July.
Some 9.5 per cent of autumn babies had an allergic response compared to five per cent of summer babies, the Finnish study found.
Autumn babies were three times as likely to have an allergy to milk and eggs as summer babies.The researchers believe the variation is due to the foetus's exposure to pollen at a critical time during pregnancy. At around the end of the third month the foetus begins to produce antibodies.
Pollen appears to trigger the development of a type of antibody known as immunoglobin E, which is well known to be linked to food allergies, wrote the authors of the study, published in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health.
Dr Kaisa Pyrhönen, of the Institute of Health Sciences at the University of Oulu in Finland, wrote: "Children having their early gestational period in the pollen season for broad-leafed trees are more prone to sensitisation to food allergens than other children."
Exactly why pollen exposure appears to trigger immunoglobin E remains unknown.
The study looked at 5,920 children born in one region of Finland between April 2001 and March 2006, of which 961 had been tested for food allergies.
George Du Toit, a paediatric allergy consultant at St Thomas' Hospital in London, described the Finnish study as "interesting" but said the findings did not warrant couples trying to time pregnancies to minimise the chance of allergy in their offspring.
The link between seasonal environmental factors and development of antibodies in the foetus remained controversial, he added.
Previous research has shown that babies born in autumn or winter are more prone to eczema and wheezing, identified by higher levels of circulating antibodies to allergens in their blood than those born in spring or summer.
Other studies on the timing of births have indicated that summer babies are more likely to be diagnosed with Attention-Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and spring babies are more at risk of developing multiple sclerosis in later life.

Sibling Rivalry
28 September

We all know the scene.  Your children are having a row, each is blaming the other and they are calling you and expecting you to sort it out.  Meantime, you are frustrated and disappointed that they can't seem to get along and, in most cases, asking what happened so you can judge the situation and assign appropriate punishments.  We know the scene
 
Child2 (shouting)         "Mum/Dad – he/she hit me and won't give me back my game"
Parent                          "Oh for goodness sake, calm down and tell me what happened"
Child  1                        "he/she started it!"
Child 2                         "No I didn't – you did!"
Child 1                         "he hit me"
Parent                          "Did you hit your sister/brother?"
Child 2                         "Yes but he/she kicked me first"
Child 1                         "No I didn't – you took my game!"
Parent                          "Did you take the game?"
Child 1                         "You always take his/her side"
  
And so on and on and on this usually escalates into a huge row, the three of you are shouting and everyone is getting very stressed out!
 
Ongoing competition and rows between siblings is one of the most common problems that parents encounter in their families. It can be quite upsetting as parents generally hope that their children will get on and will be good friends and are disappointed when this does not happen. A common pattern is see the older child as having more responsibility and to expect more from him/ her, but it is often the case that the younger child is equally culpable and the older child can feel he/she is being treated unfairly.
  
A different approach is to see the problem as shared between your children and that they are equally responsible. This means that you don't take sides in a dispute and always try to be fair. For example, if you catch the two of them fighting you don't get involved as a referee and try to decide who is 'at fault' but instead you ask them to sort the problem out themselves. If the fighting continues then you discipline them equally – perhaps the game has to stop and they are both sent to their rooms for a period. In addition, if one of the children comes to you with a complaint about the other you don't take sides as you help them deal with it. For example, if your daughter comes and says her brother has been teasing her, you might sympathise with her and help think how she is going to deal with this, but you don't get involved and discipline your son.
 
Though fights and arguments between brothers and sisters are part and parcel of growing up, excessive fighting is a problem and it is important to take steps to solve it and to teach your children how to get on with one another in the long term. Try and work out if there is anything at the bottom of the squabbling. Does one of your children feel inadequate and jealous of the other who might be getting on better at school? Or are you inadvertently favouring one of the children, (e.g. it is easier to let a younger child away with things and 'expect more' from the older child). Once you have a sense of what is causing the fighting then you can do something positive about it. For example, you can resolve to spend special time with the child who feels inadequate, doing an activity with them that he is good at, thus building his confidence, or you can resolve to be fairer with an older child, giving both children equal attention. Some other ideas are as follows:
 
1)       Set up shared activities with you and the two children, when you can help and guide your children in playing well together. When you see any moments of sharing, be sure to notice this saying for example, 'you gave your brother some of your cars, it is good to see you sharing'. You could also establish a reward system, for example they each get a sticker any time you see them sharing or being kind to one another.
  
 2)      Help the children solve their own problems. Rather than jumping in the minute they have a row, give them time to sort it out themselves (unless they are harming one another). If you do get involved instead of being a referee and imposing a solution, step back and help the children come up with their own ideas saying for example 'OK both of you want to play with the play station, what can we do?' If you take time to listen, often the kids will come up with their own solutions.
 
 3)      Set aside time for a 'family meeting' to discuss the issues and come up with ideas for solving the problem and helping the children to sort out their disagreements. Rather than being be a 'judge', it is important to be positive saying what you want to happen:  'I want to help the two of you learn to get on and share more, this will make things happier in the home. How can we make this happen'? The most important thing to do then is to listen to your children and help them think through how to solve things.
  

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Foods To Avoid Giving Your Baby
09 August
As you begin to introduce solid food to your baby, you need to be aware of foods to avoid.  The last thing you want to do is to upset your baby's tummy or cause an allergic reaction.  In addition, you want to make sure that you are not causing any other potential problems to your little one.  So what should you avoid?  We advise that you avoid salt, sugar, honey, nuts, eggs, shellfish and gluten until your baby is at least six months old.  Let's look at the reasons why.
Salt

We are all aware that too much salt is bad for us.  We need to be particularly careful with our baby.  A baby's kidneys cannot cope with too much salt and it is dangerous to give them much.  Here are some key points to remember when introducing solids to your baby:
 
 -  Babies up to 6 months should have less than 1g of salt per day.
 -  From 7 months a baby can have a maximum of 1g of salt per day.
 -  A breastfed/formula fed baby will get the right amount of salt in their diet without it being   added.
-  When you do introduce solid food, ensure it doesn't contain any added salt.
-  Don't add extra salt to your baby's food.
-  Limit the amount of high salt food you give to your baby e.g. cheese, bacon, sausages etc.
-  Avoid giving your baby processed foods that aren't specifically made for babies e.g. pasta sauces, breakfast cereals etc, as they could be high in salt.
 
Sugar
Sugar should be limited in your baby's diet.  Too many sugary foods can lead to tooth decay.  Parents often wonder why there is growing importance being put on keeping a baby's primary teeth (or milk teeth) in good condition because they are going to fall out anyway.  However, besides the obvious importance of healthy primary teeth for eating, appearance and speech, they are also essential for guiding permanent teeth which develop underneath into their correct positions.  Follow these tips:
 
- Don't add sugar to food or drinks
- Avoid sugary snacks and juices
- Use breast milk, formula or mashed banana to sweeten stewed fruits
- Don't put sugar on your baby's soother
- If your baby takes a bottle to bed, use breast mild, formula or water
 
Honey
Apart from the obvious risk to your baby's teeth, did you know that honey can contain a type of bacteria known to produce toxins.  These toxins could be produced in your baby's intestines causing a serious illness called botulism. It is vital therefore to avoid giving honey to your baby until they are 1 year old when their intestines have matured.
 
Other Foods to Avoid
Some foods can cause an allergic reaction in your baby so don't give any of the following until they are 6 months old.
-  Wheat based foods and foods containing gluten (bread, wheat flour, breakfast cereals and some rusks)
-  Nuts (e.g. Hazelnuts , peanuts , peanut butter , nut based spreads)
-  Don't give eggs (incl. Mayonnaise / hollandaise sauce )
-  Don't give shellfish
 
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Help Me 2 Parent provide parenting support & classes for parenting across all ages, private antenatal classes, caring for baby in the first year, parenting after separation, family first aid and much more.
For more information visit www.HelpMe2Parent.ie  or www.Antenatal-Class.ie

How Child-Safe Is Your Home?
27 July

We concentrate on protecting our children when we are outside of the home.  Depending on the age of our child this could range from ensuring that are strapped securely in strollers and buggies, hold our hand when walking, wear headgear while out on bicycles or skates, don't talk to strangers; the list is endless.
But what about safety within your home? What can you do to prevent childhood accidents?  Above all, your common sense will tell you the obvious things to watch our.  We have put a few tips together in this article which we hope will be of help:
 

Stairs/Doors/Outdoor areas

  • Fit a stair gate to prevent young children from climbing stairs and possibly falling
  • Ensure doors that allow access to exterior areas are not easily opened by young children
  • Interior doors should be fitted with 'pinch proof' devices where possible
  • Remove the small rubber tips from door stops as these could cause a child to choke
  • Fit window locks to windows that are within reach of young children
 
Kitchen
  • Fit locks to presses that contain dangerous substances such as bleach, detergents and so on
  • These types of products should ALWAYS be stored in their original containers, preferably with childproof lids.
  • Ensure cables for kettles, fryers, steamers etc., are not left dangling where a young child could pull the appliance down and cause an accident or worse again, a scald or burn
  • Make sure that drawers containing knives and sharp objects are inaccessible to children
  • Ensure that your dishwasher cannot be opened by your child avoiding access to knives, glasses and so on
  • Fit corner guards to sharp corners on tables, chairs and worktops
 
Living areas
  • As with the kitchen, ensure cables cannot be pulled by children causing items to fall and injure them
  • Think about securing heavy items (such as TVs) to the wall to prevent these tipping over onto young children
  • Fit socket covers to prevent little fingers being stuck into sockets
  • Don't leave matches or lighters or other dangerous items within a child's reach
  • Don't leave your car keys around where a young child may get them
  • Be careful with curtain ties and cables – these can become hazardous for a child if they caught around their neck
 Bedrooms
  • If your child can stand, remove mobiles and other hanging items from within reach of their cot
  • Never leave your child unattended on a changing table
  • Ensure that curtain strings, tiebacks and small curtain accessories (choking hazards) are kept out of reach of the cot and changing table
  • Never use hot water bottles in children's cots or beds in case of scalding
  • Young children should never be placed in the top bunk of bunk beds
 Bathrooms
  • As with kitchens, keep products out of reach of children
  • Set the temperature of your water heater not to exceed 90 degrees to avoid scalding
  • Check water temperature with your elbow to ensure its adequate for your child. Do not rely on using your hands as the skin on your hands is far less sensitive than the skin around your elbow.
  • Consider fitting a toilet lid lock
  • Make sure that shaving equipment is well out of reach of young children
 
Medicines
  • Wherever they are stored – keep them out of reach and out of sight of children!
 
Safety Equipment
  • Each household should have the following equipment:
  • First aid kit (and know how to use it!)
  • Fire Blanket
  • Fire Extinguisher
  • Emergency numbers list (to include doctor, poisons centre, emergency services etc)
 
Outdoors
  • Ensure your child is safe from traffic
  • Set a boundary within which the child is restrained ensuring that they can't wander off or be placed in danger
  • Pay special attention to water - a young child can drown in an inch of water so ensure that ponds, pools, buckets and so on are safe
  • Barbeques - while these are great fun, make sure that hot barbeques are well out of access for children
  • When choosing plants and shrubs, try to ensure that they are not particularly likely to attract bees and wasps
  • Use garden chemicals which are safe for children
  • Keep garden tools and equipment locked away from children
What if there is an emergency?  What do you do if your child is choking, had been burned or suffered an electrical shock?  Why not consider doing a first aid course to learn the basic skills you need in an emergency?  You could help to save a life or a child or adult if you have the appropriate training.
 
The Team At Help Me To Parent Ltd

Help Me 2 Parent provide parenting support & classes for parenting across all ages, private antenatal classes, caring for baby in the first year, parenting after separation, family first aid and much more.  
For more information visit www.HelpMe2Parent.ie  or www.Antenatal-Class.ie
 
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Soothers, Friend or Foe?
23 July

Soothers, dummies, pacifiers – we have many different names for them and they are a life saver for many parents!  Why do soothers work for babies?  Babies have a very strong sucking reflex so sucking can often have a strong and calming effect on infants.  They may suck their thumbs or fingers if they don't have a soother.  So should you give your baby a soother?  That is up to you as a parent but we have listed the advantages and disadvantages below to help you make this decision.  
 Advantages
 
 
  • A soother can help to calm and relax a baby.  When they are sucking on the soother, they calm down, stop crying and relax.
  • If your baby is crying for a bottle, the soother can calm them while you prepare their bottle.
  • Sucking a soother can help your baby to fall asleep as they are calm and relaxed.
  • Research has found that soothers can reduce the risk of sudden infant death syndrome.
  • They are disposable.  When it is time for your child to stop, you can throw the soother away.  This is not possible if the child sucks their thumb or fingers.
 
 
Disadvantages
 
  • Sucking a soother may interfere with breastfeeding.  Sucking on a breast if very different to sucking on a soother or a bottle and so it is better to wait until breastfeeding has been established before giving a soother.  Also, when choosing a soother, try to get one that is designed for breastfed babies.
  • Prolonged use of a soother can cause dental problems later with the positioning of teeth
  • Experts advise that children should be weaned off soothers before they are two as they can be linked to reduce speech development
  • Children can become dependant on the soother and it can be difficult to stop the use of the soother.
  • Soothers can increase the number of middle ear infections
 Tips If Using a Soother
 
 
So having weighed up the circumstances, if you do decide to give your child a soother, then follow some basic tips as follows:
 
 Wait until breastfeeding is established
  • Try not to give the soother straight away if your baby is crying.  First try to change their position, speak in a soothing tone or rock the baby to calm him/her.
  • Keep the soother clean!  Don't suck it yourself to clean it.  If you are still sterilising, have a few soothers so that you have spare soothers ready if the soother you are using is not clean.
  • When buying a soother, check that it has passed safety guidelines
  • Replace soothers where they are worn or damaged.  A loose piece of rubber could be a choking hazard.
  • If your child is continuously getting middle ear infections, discuss with your GP if the soother could be adding to the problem.
  • Never tie a cord or string to the soother as it could danger if it becomes wrapped around your baby's neck.
Giving Up The Soother
 
So what about when you want the child to give up the soother?  Many children is stop using the soother on their own, between the age of 2 and 4.  In some cases, the child will not stop voluntarily and you may need to encourage and help your child to stop.  Chat to other parents for tips about how they weaned their child off the soother and consider some of the following suggestions:
 
 Reduce the use by using star charts with reward stickers to encourage your child to gradually wean themselves off the soother.
  • Use distraction to take the child's mind off the soother when they look for the soother.
  • Talk about your child being a "big boy" or a "big girl" now to encourage them to stop
  • If someone you know has a new baby, maybe suggest that he/she gives the soother to the baby
  • Arrange to leave the soother out for the "fairies" or "santa" and when they take it away, they will leave a small reward
So keeping all of the above in mind, make your own decision about what you want and what works for you and your baby.  Remember, every child is different so make your decision on what works for your family and not what other people are "advising" you to do!  
 The Team At Help Me To Parent Ltd 
Help Me 2 Parent provide parenting support & classes for parenting across all ages, private antenatal classes, caring for baby in the first year, parenting after separation, family first aid and much more.
For more information visit www.HelpMe2Parent.ie  or www.Antenatal-Class.ie
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